No Pain, No Gain…the body builder’s mantra. 

When used correctly pain can be an effective growth and developmental aid, weather it is your arms and chest, or heart and soul. 

Since opening up and being my true self my mom and I have had many interesting conversations.  It is ridiculous to think I let so many years pass before being myself.  I realized I never really let anyone in and now that I am my relationships are more fulfilling and enriched.  I have/had many friends, girlfriends, close family members, but I never really opened myself completely to any of them.  I never invested my heart and soul. 

My mom commented on how growing up I was always bouncing around to every group.  I was the football jock, so of course associated with jocks.  I also had a group of stoner, goth, motor head, and preppy friends.  I guess I am showing my age by the group classifications but in the early 80’s these were the segregated class’s people migrated.  I was one of the exceptions, the chameleon, who bounced from group to group.  In retrospect I can see I would stay in a group and have one close friend in that group for 3, 4 maybe 6 months then off to another group.  What was I hiding from or searching for?  Fear of committing, fear of the pain commitment can create?  Not sure I have an answer or will anytime soon, but I am embracing my opportunities with an open mind, body and soul and learning to develop into a healthier and happier person from my past. 

Pain does not create the growth in our life, it just signals we are.    

Be Bold, Be Proud, Be Yourself.

Christina Foxx